Middle/Second Child Ako

Take a QUIZ muna.

ONLY CHILD

Pampered and spoiled.

Feels incompetent because adults are more capable.

Is center of attention; often enjoys position. May feel special.

Self-centered.

Relies on service from others rather than own efforts.

Feels unfairly treated when doesn't get own way. May refuse to cooperate.

Plays "divide and conquer" to get own way.

May have poor peer relations as child but better relations as adult.

Pleases other only when wants to.

Creative.

May have striving characteristics of oldest and inadequacy feelings and demands of youngest.

FIRST CHILD

Is only child for period of time; used to being center of attention.

Believes must gain and hold superiority over other children

May respond to birth of second child by feeling unloved and neglected.

Strives to keep or regain parents' attention through conformity. If this failed, chooses to misbehave.

May develop competent, responsible behavior or become very discouraged.

Sometime strives to protect and help others.

Strives to please

often the leader and a "good citizen"

responsible and responsive to the parents' expectations

typically well organized, precise, and prone to perfectionism

SECOND CHILD

Never has parents' undivided attention.

Always has sibling ahead who's more advanced.

Acts as if in race, trying to catch up or overtake first child. If first child is "good," second may become "bad." Develops abilities first child doesn't exhibit. If first child successful, may feel uncertain of self and abilities.

May be rebel. Often doesn't like position.

Feels "squeezed" if third child is born.

May push down other siblings

MIDDLE CHILD OF THREE

Has neither rights of oldest nor privileges of youngest. Feels life is unfair.

Feels unloved, left out, "squeezed."

Feels doesn't have place in family.

Becomes discouraged and "problem child" or elevates self by pushing down other siblings.

Is adaptable. Learns to deal with both oldest and youngest sibling

they often make a place for themselves outside the family, creating a network of close friends, venturing away from the family physically, and breaking the mold intellectually

YOUNGEST CHILD

Behaves like only child. Feels every one bigger and more capable.

Expects others to do things, make decisions, take responsibility.

Feels smallest and weakest. May not be taken seriously.

Becomes boss of family in getting service and own way.

Develops feelings of inferiority or becomes "speeder" and overtakes older siblings.

Remains "The Baby." Places others in service.

If youngest of three, often allies with oldest child against middle child

tend to take on the "baby" role

easygoing and spontaneous

used to being noticed and fussed over

charming

manipulative.

(Adapted from Don Dinkmeyer, Gary D. McKay, and Don Dinkmeyer, Jr., Parent Education Leader's Manual Coral Springs, F:; CMTI Press, 1978)

PS: Pinagtyagaan ko 'to hanapin para ma-justify yung pagka-brat ng kakilala ko. Gusto ko sana bigyan ng benefit of the doubt kaso...sablay talaga yung ugali e.